We don't have to live with you. You do. Be a man you can be proud of. Pour your need to cope into positive, constructive things.
Do not contact or plan contact with her again. If the universe intends you to be together, then trust that will happen in good time. If the universe does not intend you to be together, then send gratitude into the universe that she was put in your path to help make you a better person.
Beyond that, you've got work to do. Roll up your sleeves, it's going to be messy.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15