Therapist was fantastic! He made her move from the other end of the loveseat to the chair across from me. He sat next to her facing in his seat. He wanted us to look at each other and talk. No just talk to him. As soon as he asked who wanted to go first, I let her.
He immediately sided with her. He said I hear you. He then looks at me and said, do you understand what she is telling you? I said yes. He then preceded to ask me how she came to this. He then asked her. Hers predates my story of what went wrong and by almost 6 months. Sex is important in a relationship. She admitted this all along and would have sex even when she did not want to. Thus building resentment. Finally she asked me to therapy last fall. I told him I missed that red flag and could not see why she did not come to me with her thoughts on where our relationship was headed. He asked us to have a 45 minute talk before our next meeting. Talk about our child and sharing his time. My needs and hers with child for 30 minutes. He then said for the last 15 minutes to discuss our relationship. What worked and did not. How we felt about things and what we can learn from it. He said we can come back, it is up to us. She looked at me and said, do you want to come back? I said yes, that would be nice. He scheduled us. He had made it clear that he knew she wanted to come for a few sessions and said how many is that? She gave a vague answer. He said, so you are coming here for your husband? She said yes. Thoughts? Comments? I re read DB and DR today. So, I keep up 180's and patients, GAL. Any other advice?
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Me43/WAW43..M 4y..S1 11/S2 4..Bomb2/2014..Dfile 5/2014..Settlement signed 8/20/14..D final 8/29/14 I moved out 10/10/14..WAW got D she wanted. I wanted R. No waiting,just no boundaries in her way.
