It think I'm doing a fair job of following Sandi's rules and being a woman anyone would be a fool to leave. H and I have gotten along wonderfully lately and that feels great. I guess I just keep doing what I'm doing?
He'll be moving out soon. Today we talked about what furniture he plans to take with him and where he'll find a bed for d. He did say he was preferring to rent this one place that already had a washer/dryer and fridge because he'd hate to spend big money on appliances if he could be back after 3-6 months. We talked about what we'd tell d, too, and maybe I paid too much attention but what he wants to say now is completely different than what he wanted to say 1-2 weeks ago.
I'm scared because I've made some changes and I know he notices but doesn't trust them or their longevity, I get that, but I feel like it's not going to get much better, you know? My outward behavior is significantly different and I've noticed his has changed significantly too. He is MUCH less negative (though I wouldn't say he's positive), he's listening more, respectful, and hilarious (he's always been hilarious though). I guess it comes down to my changes radiating so he can see that they're real and not lip service and in the mean time I'll dig deeper, do more 180s, GAL and try super hard to be more patient through this separation transition.
Am I on the right track here? I need some reassurance. I'm not needy with h but apparently I'm needy with your feedback. Gah!
