Zues126 now that I am on a laptop vs my little phone screen I saw your note.
I've been playing with different contact methods. The more I well, detach the less I care about not reaching out to her as a strong and fast rule. There is a bunch of moving business that has to get done.
I was so afraid of her reactions, that I would have anxiety about reaching out. Now, I am starting to clearly understand that a WAW in an A is basically driven insane by her conflicting emotions. Some days she's good, some days she's bad.
There is absolutely nothing I can do to make her like me, make her happy. She has to work through that on her own. All I can do is just keep finding my true self. My happy, confident, loving, big hearted (even while broken) self.
For the longest time, I was so hung up on why I didn't feel that she loved me. I think both of us just didn't love ourselves. How could we love each other. I'm starting to love me just a little bit more now. I'm actually being kinda happy with the me that I am turning out to be.
Thanks everyone.
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015