KGirl - post-move

[KGirl]

labug - maybe that wasn't the best choice of words. "Reframe" might be better. I feel angry because H isn't doing what I think he *should* be doing with this time apart, and there's probably a different way of thinking about it from his perspective that would be more understanding/less judgmental.

GB - re: the cat, H actually asked me before I moved if I would take her for two weeks while he was "out of town," and I said no, partly because I didn't want to be his cat sitter, and partly because my apartment's policy is that if you have a cat you have to fill out a lease addendum and pay an extra $25 a month. I suppose I could sneak her in here "illegally" but I don't really want to get in trouble (and don't want to pay all that just to have a cat part-time!) I met a cute little long haired black cat yesterday at the humane society that I'm thinking about getting. Re: H being alone... hmm. There are a number of activities that he can spend a lot of time on that are solo activities but they keep his mind occupied, things like fantasy sports stuff (drafts to managing league websites to trades to research on players), video games, watching TV. He tends to need to have something to "do" or something in the background - he would always turn the TV on when we sat down to eat, for example. During TV commercials he'd need to do stuff on his phone. He's not much for reading or quiet activities. So, hard for me to say how he feels about being alone.

I called the bank back about the loan they said they needed more info for. They asked a bunch of questions along the lines of "So you're paying rent, but you have a mortgage, too? And you don't live in the house? But your husband lives in the house? So you live separately? Is your name staying on the house?" UGH. It didn't feel good to explain that we were separated physically but not legally to this random loan lady on the phone. Then she said "I'll submit it and we'll see what happens. Your debt to income ratio is pretty high" because they take into account the mortgage AND my rent AND my student loans, despite the fact I'm not actually paying the mortgage, it's still in my name though. GRRR. I had an angry crying hour or so where I wished H would just divorce me and fall off the face of the earth, or at least take some sort of action one way or another because "limbo" is now screwing with my finances. Thank goodness she got back to me and I was APPROVED, as an individual, no signature from H needed, at the lowest interest rate they offer. Now to see if I can get the car I want for the price I want!