She was saying that ("you are fun", "who is this guy, i feel like I am married to a stranger", and "why did it take me doing what I am doing to make you change") for the past several weeks. But she never said she wanted to see an MC or IC.
However, once I found out about the A (I figured this out 8 days ago), my emotions got the better of me. She was not happy that I broke into her phone, not happy that I told her that she was lying, not happy that i figured this out, etc. So I definitely set myself back from the changes that she saw. I wish that I handled better my encounter with her yesterday.
Your a lot like me. We react badly and then we over think what we did and wish we can take it back.
Believe me, what you have is that you found this site early in your Sitch.
Had I followed these principles last July when I caught my wife in a borderline EA/over the top friendship when she was most confused and vulnerable, I really believe things would have not gone this far out of control.
By the time I stopped the attacks and the "Circle talking" she had ran away with the OM. He had her convinced if she came home I would do something bad to her.
I think I am at the 50/50 mark right now. The OM has shown his colors quite a bit this past week.
As they keep saying this is a marathon, just learn from your mistakes.
The hardest for me has not been changing my behaviors toward my WW its been obsessing about her and the OM.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
