She was saying that ("you are fun", "who is this guy, i feel like I am married to a stranger", and "why did it take me doing what I am doing to make you change") for the past several weeks. But she never said she wanted to see an MC or IC.
However, once I found out about the A (I figured this out 8 days ago), my emotions got the better of me. She was not happy that I broke into her phone, not happy that I told her that she was lying, not happy that i figured this out, etc. So I definitely set myself back from the changes that she saw. I wish that I handled better my encounter with her yesterday.
You didn't set yourself back, you just put a crack in the fantasy world she was living in. She now has consequences (if you enforce your boundaries) to her actions. Until now, it was just a lovely world where all her needs were being met, from multiple people. Now that you have crashed this world, she is mad.
