My opinion is that she needs someone less needy. So to meet her needs you must be able to meet more of your own. Your perspective hasnt budged from 'doing whatever it takes to get her back'. Thats not growth, thats further controlling and manipulative behavior. Until you can envision being healthy on your own you are bringing her down even if you could force her back (which you cannot!).
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
