Your perception is spot-on about me with the mind reading. I do tend to assume I know things I couldn't possibly. This is a personal struggle for me, and it's on my (long and forever-growing) list of self-improvement.
H complaints about me were mainly that I was "against SS20". I would try to explain that I was never against SS20, but I didn't like the behaviors he had toward me and the kids. I was upset that H allowed it. We rarely argued about anything, but when we did, it was almost always about SS.
H told me I didn't discipline and follow through on my kids' chores enough, I allowed my S17 to bully everyone and that it bothered H that S17 was so much like my xh (whom H has never met). H was a stickler for perfection when it came to the kids' chores. He was not this way when his kids lived with him, as I had visited that house and it was....less than spotless. I would never say anything, but found it odd when the expectations were vastly different years later when it was a different household.
H felt (recently) that he did too much for us. That he was just a paycheck. He cooked dinner most days, since he was home by 4:00 and I, not until 5:30. H wanted to have dinner early, so H cooked. He didn't complain about this at all until a year ago.
There is truth to all of the above, and I'm sure there are more things that will come to mind, and I'll add them later.
M44, H44, both M before M4 yrs, T6 BD 7/13 ILYB something isn't right with me H att suicide 2/14 S 4/14 OW disc 5/14 D final 4/15
