"The third time's lucky. "

[TL72*]

thank you Lois - I will definitely not react with venom, I was able to just walk away and ignore it even though I wanted to say a few choice things, it wasn't worth the energy - I asked myself what would this accomplish - it would be sinking to his level and just opening the door to more and I felt better ignoring it and then it hasn't happened again for 2 days so i'm hoping he did crawl back away.

Matt I'm so sorry that you're currently experiencing this crap, it is such a relief when the legal stuff is done and over but there's always going to be that link plus you have children. I hope that things settle down for you soon. You definitely gain strength along this journey. When I look back I see that I was learning some valuable lessons, I did notice that when someone told me a story about so and so walking away from their niece/cousin, whomever when she got pregnant and they were wondering what to do - I'm thinking to myself - consider yourself lucky they walked away now and just protect yourself. Yes it hurts but at least you can see who they are now and not 10 years down the line when you're totally invested and taken by surprise even more. I'm a little bitter in some ways but I do still believe in love. Yeah I was given the same opinion by someone else that you said - about how it's sunk in that i'm ok without him and it is easier for him to blame me for whatever is wrong in his life now and that i'm not there to pick up the pieces like I always was. I feel pity for him, I know he's going through something awful and I wanted to be there for him but I cannot, he made that clear then and now, I no longer wish to be the rescuer, that's not healthy either. He definitely has not accepted any responsibility for anything that has gone wrong in his life, he never did, I just didn't see it until I was on the outside of it. I do hope he stops, it did get under my skin Friday night but I still had a good time with friends, however I don't like that I allowed it to bother me as much as it did. Still working on that. I hope that him venting on me like that provided him with an outlet - I still wish him the best, i'm certainly moving forward and onward without him. I don't need that drama in my life. Thanks for letting me vent here guys, it's hard to explain this behavior to others because they think you should react differently than you are but I know inside that I did the right thing by ignoring him. After I send him the bank letter that shows the original loan is paid in full I will block him from everything and pray for the best.