I don't think it's necessary to retract your statement. Actions speak louder than words. I mean what would you really be saying? "H, I want us to be friends." Eh. I think it's not being *friends* per se but rather being *friendly*. There is a difference. Does that make sense?
The reality is that you may not be able to be friends with your h. Maybe ever. However, you can be pleasant and friendly. It's hard to be *friends* with someone who has treated us in a way we wouldn't allow other friends to treat us. As you move thru forgiveness then perhaps your feelings change. However, I do t think you are at all wrong for not being able to be your h's friend at this point.
Don't be so hard on yourself! Hang in there:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
