WAW not admitting to affair #3

[Train]

sho,

I also need to get my mind ready for being a single/divorce parent.
Stinkin' thinkin'. Stop. No, you don't need to get your mind ready for being a single/divorced parent. You need to get your mind ready to fight for your family.

One thing that I know is that if we don't work on our R and M, and we do divorce with a lot of resentment and issues going unresolved, the kids will be hurt in the long run. They need two parents who can be parents together, even if they are divorced. Not parents with resentment towards each other. And we cannot work on that until she is honest with me and of course, drops the OM.

Not sure how I say that to her.
You don't. You don't say anything AT ALL to her about your relationship right now. That time has passed. You also realize that you're projecting a lot up there. And you're thinking you're gonna fix this in a day. You won't. There's plenty of time here, sho. Plenty of time.

Last night, I went over to see some friends and came home around 9pm.
Perfect.

She was in bed and did not really speak with me. After 10 min of me in bed with her. she took her book and slept downstairs on the couch.
Give her space and room and time to pout. Stand your ground. And do not leave the marital bed.

my wife did a search for a disney cruise. I assume she wants to take the kids without me. I guess I just act like it is not a big deal, even though inside I want to be with my kids on vacation. She has not booked it but I doubt she will tell me when she does.
Stinkin' thinkin'. And LOTS of assumptions. Assumptions are not your friend. Let this play out. Ignore it. Don't say anything at all about it right now. Let her bring it up.