Wife wants marriage with OM, is there any hope?

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Thanks MrBond and nit84. I'm taking your words to heart. I'm really trying to empathize, and I'm getting there -- just not all the way there yet.

Right now, we're on a "trial separation" -- not legally separated. We have written a number of ground rules and will soon take it have it notarized by a legal professional. We are still living under the same roof, primarily for the kids' sake (and for financial reasons).

The one thing that I'm having a hard time accepting is the fact that my WAW goes out (and stays over with the OM) two to three times a week, leaving me at the house with the kids. I'm having a hard time grasping this as anything else than irresponsible (as a mother) and selfish. Perhaps one of you guys can offer me an alternative view.

Thanks.

Have you ever gone out and left her in the house with the kids 2 or 3 nights/week?

You should have an agreement that gives you both equal time with the kids.