Kim, I want to see you happy and in a healthy relationship. This man is toxic in many ways and you need to run far and as fast as you can from him. He knows exactly what buttons to push and things to say to get you to come to him. Your marriage has some rough spots and you had to deal w/MLC...now it's time to step back and allow yourself to heal both mentally and emotionally and look for someone who doesn't have the NPD or BPD. Both of these personalities are toxic and professionals know that they are very difficult to treat and keep on a healthy road.
Kim, you deserve far better than someone w/either of these personality disorders...run, do not stop until you clear the other side of the road. This man is not the one for you and you do not want him in your life or your daughters' lives because he's not going to change w/o a lot of therapy and work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
