Hi TL, I'm so sorry that he has started this chit up. Must have been a bad weekend for MLCers as my W went on a tirade while she was here taking furniture that I was allowing her to have before we have even come to any agreement! I found out that she hasn't been moving forward with the D because she didn't want to spend any money with her lawyer and told me that once I let her have anything she wants, THEN we can finish the process! She actually thinks that I should be left with nothing to negotiate with to get what I want BEFORE we sit down to negotiate. While she was there she started to pack something that I said I would like to keep. She freaked out, ran into my bedroom and took my laptop screaming that I was horrible and that she had to leave because she had to sleep on the couch for 6 months and if i was so angry she left she can come back and I can sleep on the couch. No one asked her to sleep on the couch.
It was like watching a 47 year old have a temper tantrum like a 4 year old, in front of the kids and her best friend (who thinks she's crazy for leaving me)! She cares more about "stuff" then her kids, her dog, her marriage. Here I was helping her carry furniture that belonged to me until she decided to quit a 20 year marriage for no reason. When I have let her have almost anything she wanted. She could have just spoke to me in a normal way. Told me that this clock meant so much to her and if I would let her have it she would appreciate it or offered to give up something else. But that would mean she would have to be "nice", would have to actually give up something and MLCers don't like to hear that!
I think just what your exH has done is starting to sink in. He was feeling the need to run so badly that he just signed whatever he had to and now he see's that you can live just fine and he hates it. He is starting to see that you weren't the reason he was unhappy all along and now he has to live with the consequences of what he has done and instead of thinking he was wrong, he would rather find a NEW thing you're to blame for that is making him unhappy. What is it about these WAS's that make them always see us as the reason for every bad feeling they have? Heck, I have seen some that blame their ex's for the failure of the relationship with OP.
I think you're doing all you can at this point. You are doing great, don't let him get under your skin. He's a coward underneath it all if you think about it. If he wasn't he would have been brave enough to face his part in any problems in the M and at least tried to work things out. Just hold on and he'll crawl back under his rock soon enough.
