If you can keep the divorce amicable then that would be good. If it remains relatively amicable, there is less hurt for them to come back from, if that makes sense. The ones that cut a wide swathe of incredible damage have a harder time getting back, and simply talking, which seems to be part of reconciliation, from what I have seen
I do not believe that MLCers are playing off a full deck at all, and they say and do some crazy stuff.
A friend of mine whose xh had a MLC said that her divorce care group divided into the two or three having 'MLC' divorces, and the rest who were divorcing because the marriage had ended from both partner's perspective. She said it was like night and day.
It is hard to come back from betrayal. We love the person they were, and the life we had. A year is no time at all in MLC terms!
I do not think we make a decision to stop standing, it simply happens, or not. Holly06's husband divorced her and they reconciled some time later. She got on with her own life, but didn't want to date anyone else. They are still together as far as I know. As long as we continue with our life and behave with integrity we will be fine.
