Dude, you stay dark until she starts showing signs that she has been given ample opportunity to process everything. See? It's all on her now so it makes sense for you to take care of you, GAL, stay dark, go to meetings, NOT DATE and figure this sh!t out completely. You think you're in pain? Imagine finding out that someone you love has been cheating on you for a loooong time... And how did she find out? From the broken hearted OW. OUCH!! You're in deep. This isn't about convincing her that you're worth it or good together or that you've finally found the magic elixir that will keep you faithful, this is about you giving her the room and the respect she deserves to heal. She may or may not come back to you but if you're all up in her face after a month, she's definitely not coming back. This is about her. Her. Back off. How long? Only she knows and you're not giving her the space to figure that out.
