Well, I need to tell everyone how the day went. Not very well, in the end.
W and her BF came over very early. I had gotten a lot of the stuff she wanted out and ready. At first all was well. Each time my W left us alone her BF would tell how she and most of W's friends think W is crazy for what she is doing, that a couple of people we knew through her work that no longer work with he won't even speak to her because when they said how much they liked me W went off on them about how she is doing this for her and it's none of her business. She gave me advice about GALing (ha, ha) and how she didn't when her ex left her.
Well we loaded the first truck load and all was well. When they came back, W was in a bad mood. She also had the kids with her and I think she was angry that they wanted to come to my house earlier than she wanted them to. Well, she started to pack some of the things from the estate sale and when she went to pack one item, a clock, I stopped her. I said quite calmly "I would like to keep this". She didn't just say she wanted it, she went straight to total freak out mode. In front of the kids and her BF, she screamed that she bought the clock because she always listened to it at her GM's house as a child. Well, she didn't wind it right a month after we bought it and it hasn't worked since! I said that she has kept everything, that it doesn't seem right. She yelled how "nice" she has been, told me I was lying about how much we spent on her GM stuff, and ran into the bedroom and grabbed the laptop she never used because it was a Mac and said she will keep it since I want to take everything she wants.
I got angry and I did yell back. It wasn't that bad but I shouldn't have lost it. When she wouldn't stop acting like a child, I told her to take the damn clock and get out. I also told her that she will not be coming back until she sends a list to my lawyer and we come to terms on everything. At one point in all this I said she was the one who left, why does she expect to just keep the things SHE wants? She screamed that she HAD to sleep on the couch for 6 months and fine, she will move back and I can sleep on the couch, is that what I wanted? That was when I told her to just take it a go. (I may have said get the he$$ out, not sure). All this in front of the kids and her BF! I felt so bad for her BF and the girls. Once she left, I apologized to the kids for losing my cool. My D19 said not to worry and W had it coming. My D14 just said it was OK and not my fault.
The whole day I was nice, I tried to help, I loaded the stuff for her. Heck, if the clock was so important to her if she had just talked to me about it, I probably would have let her have it. But of course she acted the same way about all the things we got at that estate sale. How can someone who cares so little about her own family care so much about her "family" things? Why do things matter so much to her but the fact that her D19 now has no real choice but to live with her boyfriend if she wants to go to school because her mom won't help her out and I can't no matter on bit? How can she really believe that she has been "fair" when she left me with less than zero money in the bank and me needing to buy food for my D's and pay the bills?
Yes, I know the answer. She is in MLC and can't think of anything BUT herself. She can't even act like an adult! To scream and run and grab the laptop she knows I need and can't afford to replace like a little kid saying "Fine, I'll take this!" like a kid taking his ball because he didn't get his way, proves she isn't in her right mind. I feel bad for the kids but now that things have calmed down, tjhey both say that they agree that their mom has been acting like a child. That she thinks of nothing but herself, even when I'm not around.
I will take some time to calm down before I proceed but I'm sure at this point I will need to talk to my lawyer and tell him that she has been taking things before coming to an agreement and ask him what he thinks I need to do now to protect myself.
So, almost got away without the freak out and pain but couldn't make it through a full day without her going off the deep end!
