I had an affair... and I want my Fiancee back

[DBinSF]

Hi all,

It's been 18 days of No Contact with my ex-fiancee. Although I ran into her at a party last night, we didn't speak. I'm coming to terms with my Love Addiction and going to meetings. I have a sponsor and I'm working the First Step.

I'd like to continue learning about the DB Community and methods. I'd love some advice on how long I should stay Dark. I know a few members here have some harsh judgements for me, but perhaps others have a little more compassion for what is a very painful and regretful situation.

Thanks!