Have you thought of asking h if the cat could stay with you for a couple of weeks? I just wonder if you do that (proposing it as a visit) that your h may agree and it may make you feel a bit better as well. Couldn't hurt. You could say" h, I was wondering if you would allow Kitty to visit for a couple of weeks." Your h (since he's gone a good bit may actually agree-especially at this point.
In regards to whether or not he's thinking, only he can truly answer that. I will say that some people simply are unable to reflect or dig deep on themselves. Can I ask you a question? Does your h have a difficult time being alone? If he does , then sadly he probably is avoiding looking at himself because it's too much for him. That's just mind reading though as I don't know if your h is that way.
Hang in there ! You really are doing great:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
