Out of curiosity, has anyone had experience dealing with someone that has Borderline Personality Disorder?
Where I work we have a resident that has this disorder. Wow she's alot of work, but I handle her well and I really do like her. But it's alot of boundary setting, validation, listening, and letting her know she's valued. Oh this poor woman spins, and spins, and she truly believes these perceptions that come into her head about things that happen.
I've had the most wonderful weekend to myself, and when that happens I finally can think. As I sat peacefully yesterday this thought cam out of the blue, that I swear that's whats going on with boyfriend!
I've been reading about it since yesterday. Oh My. Fits him to a T. I guess there are certain types of BPD. Low functioning, High Functioning, and Combo. Looks like I got a High Functioning one.
Then as it hit me, ALL THE SUDDEN IT SEEMED THAT EX-X FIT THIS BILL TOO!
You guys I really don't know what to do. Im now going to refer to this man as on/off Boyfriend. After a week of silence, this man communicates with me like I needed him to communicate with me a week ago when we had yet another blow up.
He acknowledges and admits he was wrong for what he said that was so rude and insensitive to me. He validated my feelings and has truthfully apologized.
He admits to being selfish and demanding and that I must be a true saint to have put up with him because he knows how difficult he can be.
He's not angry and still doesn't want to give up on us, and that he truly loves me.
Dear Lord guys.... what do I do? I want to move forward with him.
But I know this pattern will repeat.
And then it's like AJ mentioned a "project".
I don't know what a true healthy and happy relationship really is like. I've never truly had a life role model.
All I know is abnormal, is normal in my life. I think I gravitate to it.
I see him as a person though, not someone that needs to be discarded because he's got mental issues.
I honestly don't know what the right thing to do is, because Im so emotionally involved.
