Matt, I agree with Wonka! And Ggrass has a very clever idea!
My aunt did that when she asked for a divorce, and granted this divorce was called for! But she said He could have one weekend to get everything he wanted out, while she was gone (stayed with me and my mom) and then that was it. He was never to come back to the house again.
I've been through divorce Matt. And I agree 100%, this is where you MUST STAY STRONG, and go for what you know you will need down the road! I know it's hard, but it's really necessary you put that game face on. Children get more expensive as they grow and get older! They eat you out of house and home, have sports, need clothing because they grow so fast, then there are school activities, DANCES, PROM....!!You have a D14. I have D14, and D11. It seems like every time I turn around they need something, and they're not being selfish or demanding. It's just the way it goes for two girls growing up!
I know I too was wavering in certain areas of my divorce, but a wise friend of mine said "Kim do what I didn't do. FIGHT! I didn't do that, and I got the shaft so bad". And boy did she get the shaft from her ex husband with child support. It's sickening what he got away with, but then again she didn't want to cause ripples, and it unfortunately it's a challenge for her.
Im not sure how things are in your state, but make sure the child support is directly deducted from her wages and put into your bank account too. No wishy- washy, agreements on her giving you checks during drop off/pickup. No sir. She wanted this divorce, she can have it. And all the consequences that come with it. Yes she'll spew, but let her twist in the wind!
I stood firm and my attorney went for what I needed and what was legally expected and fair! I didn't come away with alot because the $$$ I was hoping I could get some of because it was squandered by Ex husband purposely so I couldn't get it. He received a very large inheritance and mesothelioma winnings over his grandfather's death. Yet the man now has 6 garnishments because it was better to blow it and not let me have it, rather than pay his bills. Hmmm, go figure!
And I must add, if she's making double what you are, and has chosen to leave your marriage, and the house, you're the primary parent for D14 (which I do believe at her age she now has much more say of where she wants to live the majority of the time) SHE WILL OWE YOU CHILD SUPPORT! It's the law!!!
AND BUDDY WHILE YOU'RE AT IT, GO FOR SPOUSAL SUPPORT TOO!!!!
