Shodan, you are getting wonderful advice from everyone here, and I am taking as much of it as I can for myself. I understand that your brain is going back and forth and rambling and just reeling from pain right now, but you have to keep a strong and steady perception in all interactions with your wife, and then turn these into your reality.
Thank you for posting your story, it also gives me a lot of insight and a chance to follow some of the same advice. Stay strong.
~asat
Me 31 Her 30 M 5.5 T 11 0 Kids Bomb drop: 4/13, EA+PA: 12/13 Separated: 12/13, 3rd chance of counseling:7/14