WAW having an A but she denies it #2

[shodan]

Today was not a great day. I actually expected her to confess to the A. Her blatant lying bugged me. I should have walked away. We did talk for a while about what had been bugging her about her life. She hates the burbs and feels that she does not fit in here. She has fun and energy in NYC. She also told me again how controlling I am and that I make life not fun for her. She feels that she never had a voice in our R from the beginning. I know I have made mistakes but I am a better man she seems to think. She thinks my new way is BS and that I will revert to my old ways, like when I broke into her phone. She bought four very expensive concert tickets to tsar my daughter next weekend but she never mentioned buying four only the two for her and my D. I also did not see the charge hit our Amex card and found a new one in her wallet. I asked her about the four tickets and said as the father I should know. She took this as controlling her.

Today was a cannot win situation. She just needs a ton of space from me. Even when I said that was committed to the M and our family, she said that I was trying to control the situation.

I assume the advice will be to GAL, work on me for me, and detach. Would it be wrong to ask my wife that we just table all talk about jobs and M but do focus on the kids so they don't get hurt by this in the meantime? Or is that too controlling?