35... holding my ground... keep the focus on ME

[makingmagic]

WOW... Im not sure I understand... I am honest. Not posting about that seemed pointless, as I wasn't sure I was going & it seemed irrelevant (at the time). It is not done to mislead anyone or to be irresponsible. We typically do not get email invites to parties, therefore I was not changing up the roles.

I feel I am very honest. Brutally honest, so that I can get the help I need ... fast... otherwise, its pointless.

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The party: I showed up and a small group of people were talking when I arrived. He was in that circle. He asked if I would like a beer. I said sure. It was an interesting venue with a lake. I was curious to see the property & asked if he would like to join me outside for a walk. He said sure. While outside we casually chatted about the property. We then sat outside for awhile too. He stated that this was an "Old people party" and that I looked nice or the hottest (can't recall exactly). I thanked him for the compliment. He said don't take it too seriously and look around (old people). He spoke of his Mom & how caring for her is tough & he is not a caregiver. He spoke about the new car we purchased my DD. He then mentioned he would be leaving around 9pm. When we went inside, some old acquaintances had arrived & began chatting with us. He seemed to be making an effort to include me in the comments about "our" work, "our" business, etc. They started assuming we were still a couple & they were reminiscing of a time we spent away one weekend. It seemed as though several of the party members were playing darts. The one girl asked us to play. I was sure he would use this as an opportune time to exit, but looked at me and said "sure". During this time, he asked if I would share a beer with him, I said "sure". We played a game of darts & we were a team. It was fun. This couple made comments of how nice it was that we were still together, and asked how long.. he said "20 years at least", etc. I was the better player of the 4 of us & was being asked how to play, etc. It was now 11pm, cake time. He used this time to exit. It was a quick bye & he left using the excuse of needing to go feed his mom. About a half hour later. I left too. I didn't really know anyone else to talk too.

Came back, watched TV with DD....this was nice.

I think the party went well. We did not talk about "work" which we don't get to do often, and we also had an opportunity to "play" and we don't do that either. I am unsure why he let that couple think we were still together. Maybe I should have stated, no... we are separated....??? We do this with customers too, as its easier to carry on than to stop and explain. Maybe he was doing this.

I realize this event was just a work thing... I would love to think it was something more than it is... but, it is not.

Carry on.

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Today: taking my daughter to get her hair cut/coloured.