"Okay. It sure would help if you would tell the complete facts at the time. Unless I missed it, I don't recall you telling that last part, so how could we know? So anyway..."
sandi, the reason she doesnt is because it would force her to take responsibility for her contribution to the situation. the majority of MMs posts lack important details that change the perspective drastically, its a form of manipulation/control my x uses also. when reading her posts theres always this nagging feeling something just isnt right, something is missing. its only later when questioned that further details emerge and you get that Aha moment, when it all makes sense.
"You are right in not doing the responding for him,"
and this depends on her role in the business. If her role is more of the office manager/secretary, and she manages the email account, (regardless whose name is on the email) then its her responsibility to respond as this is a Work party.
for them to respond separately to a work party would look unprofessional and ridiculous considering there's only 2 of them.
"I sent him a copy of the invite for him to respond for himself ages ago" - showing until this point she had managed the emails and responding to invites. but she's changing the roles without notifying him which explains his expectations and confusion.
if she's changing the roles, and refusing to respond on his behalf, then she has to clearly explain this to him, she shouldnt do it passive-aggressively by waiting until the last minute and then give half-assed answers to him as she's doing now.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
