Quick update...when I got back from going out (950pm), she was asleep, so we never talked.

I met a buddy for a beer and we talked about my sitch. Ironically, he had an A several years ago. Fell totally in love with the OW. His wife found out, confronted him and said "you need to decide what you want. I am on a 'train' with the kids and this family moving in this direction (points somewhere) and if you want on the train, you need to leave the other part of your life for good." Turns out, she had read DR and practiced it on him. He said it worked very well on him and woke him up from the fog. He learned from that point that M is work. But she also was super patient and did not push him. She went about her life like he was gone already. He realized that she was super independent and did not need him, which drew him back.


Me: 40, W: 40
M: 15, T: 18
D - 10, S - 7
D announcement 6/7/2014
A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W)
Still living together and sharing same bed