I agree with Tad and Wonka on that one, Matt. What is it you're afraid of, again? That she'll leave? That she'll want a divorce? That she'll say mean things about and to you?
Hmmm?
Most people that get divorced, later regret not standing up for themselves and regret not getting what they wanted. Or at least trying. Heck, even my ex regretted not getting the house. I laughed and told her to piss up a rope. She could have asked at the time and I may have let her have it. It would have been easier, although I needed to know that the kids wouldn't be evicted from their house and she had no income at the time.
I let my ex have most of what she said she wanted. I helped her pack. I'm not really into material things as it is, but there were a few things that mattered to me and some things that needed to stay for the kids' sake. I held onto those.
But like Tad mentioned, don't act out of fear. Don't act out of thinking it, or anything at all, will appease her. She will likely get rid of anything she takes at a later date anyway. She's running away, remember?
Be reasonable, but be firm. If you want something, say so.
Remember my ex? She said later that I was pathetic for not taking more. For trying to save the marriage. For not fighting back more aggressively.
It's not about you, Matt. If it was, you could appease and assuage etc. You could even negotiate. But it's not about you, so you can't.
Food for thought.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
