WAW having an A but she denies it #2

[Oxford1]

I just ran into her briefly (by accident). Her yoga class was cancelled so she pulled by in her car while I was walking the dog. I probably a little too cold frankly. I told her we had dinner plans and that she could meet us if she wanted. I also reiterated that I know and she knows she is not being honest with me. I told her that I am fighting for my marriage, my kids and our home. She said we would talk later. I asked if she would be honest and she said yes (with tears in her eyes). I told her that I could not talk tonight because I was going out. She asked if I had a babysitter and I said no, you are watching them. She said we would talk when I got back tonight.

I hate to be a pessimist, but my guess is she loves the OM and really wants a divorce, but feels very guilty about it, me and the kids. But I need to stand strong. I don't want to lose my W but I cannot make her stay with me. If she wants to destroy our life, our home and our marriage (in addition to our kids), then that is her decision.

I feel angry, which is not the right way to approach tonight. I need to calm down and PMA.

Be strong Sho, my wife and I have delayed our collaborative divorce. She is still in some sort of relationship with OM and as Wonka has stated I am like her gay roommate, but we are still in the same house and do things together.

My plans were to put up with this for as long as possible and Plan A her, now I am more in the 180 , if she sees him again I have committed to my sons that I will go Plan B.

So I know what your going through. The suspense is the most painful. You do know the only person who really has the most to loose here is your wife. There is a big big percentage that she and OM will not last once she goes to him. By then you will be in a better place and may have found someone else.