Don't mean to hijack thread but I could use some advise. You people seem really smart. Could some of you visit my thread? Are there other techniques to changing your wifes behavior? My wife is emotionally abusive to me. Here is the short story: I left her last year and she begged me back. I went back home and endured another year of abused. I've moved out again. I'm at wits end. I don't engage her just endure the abuse. I think we are headed for divorce.