Happy to say, I had and still have the strength in me to tell her I was glad she has the courage to initiate steps in addressing our core problems, however, at this time I dont feel it. And I didnt care about our M much because of the lies and deceit. I told her I just want out of this M this point. Told her I don't trust her at all. I want to move on because the world we created is broken and I just don't have the desire to heal it. She cried and I left it at that. Next morning, she's back to her old self living each day as if she thinks I'm not serious.
So you told her you want out and then you did what about it? Serve her with divorce papers? Why would she believe you if you don't do anything about it, besides just talking? It probably would have been better to give her an ultimatum like "I can't continue in a marriage like this. End all contact with OM or I will file for divorce." At least that would have her scrambling. Right now you told her you were done, apparently no matter what she does. Are you actually ready to do that?
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In addition, I reiterated my boundaries to her again. I said to her what if OM calls her, she answered quickly, I'll just block his number.
Sure she will.
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She asked if we were going to have dinner together I said it doesn't matter to me. She said hey why do you sound so mad. I said I'm not. I just don't care if we do or don't. 180 in the works. No more Mr.Pleaser. We ended the conversation with her coming home but Im not going to lift a finger in cooking for us. Detaching I am. Feels good. Will not backslide. Vets and or anyone, I need some suggestion as to how I should be. I am projecting a mellow DGAF kinda tone. Is this too harsh?
You don't sound mellow. You sound angry. Why would she stay for that? This is the time to GAL.... So what are you going to do tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day, and the next day.....
