Don't know what to do, fight for it or move on

[TRDiver]

Thank you very much for reading. For my part I would like to work my issues and try to save it. I guess that leads to some initial questions:

1) Do I acknowledge / let it be known that I know about the OM rekindling?

2) We have a meeting on Tuesday with my counsellor. It was at one time to help me move on, then to maybe discover is she can work through her anger and now again to help me move on / with our girls. Do I keep this with her or just go solo? Could this be a could vehicle to address the OM / other relationship situation?

I'm inclined to keep it with her, and also inclined to ask the counsellor if there's a way to work to re-build trust or the relationship but that's probably chasing behaviour? I'm encouraged that my wife is willing to go to the counsellor and she's also seeing one of her own to help work through her issues that allowed me to hurt her and her anger.

3) Our 14th anniversary is in a couple weeks, do I acknowledged this?

4) Our town is quite small / isolated (7K and rural Australia so things are limited) and I'll become primary care taker of kids so any ideas on GAL? I've spent 1/2 my life just doing things with my wife so I'm really at a loss on this one. She's taken care of the kids for the most part so I'll have a steep curve on that. Finances may be strained as well.

I have tons more but this is a good start.