I knew going into our R that my W had major family issues re: her father. ... All it took was him coming back in her life at a "bad" time when she was already going through a transition, and that was it. The little 10 year old girl inside her who so wanted (wants) her daddy's love came out to play.
What a lethal combination! A nasty past & midlife! Although you "knew" that there were some issues initially - there is NO way you could have known or been prepared for 'THIS' ... This outcome or her father's timing, being perfect for HIM of course!
The problem now is there is nothing I can do. There is no way for me to help pull her back to reality. Her father has now destroyed not only his family but my and his D's family as well. What makes someone so very evil as to even WANT to do that? How does a grown man act the way he does and have zero remorse?
Her father is cold & selfish. Since these 'attributes' are not the ones needed by parents, he has effectvely destroyed so much of her life. If she is lucky, she may get past one day, bu tdon't hold your breath. You are right - there is not much you can do. You can only GAL & that too will increase the probability that your D has a CHANCE at life.
I have always tried my best to be the best father I can be to my girls. ... I KNOW that they will never be hurt by the things I do now. If only their mother were strong enough to break free of the awful past her father gave her.
I believe that it was Kim Basinger who said the following during an interview - "It takes the truth a little longer to get to the finish line, BUT it gets there." Your daughters will 'see' this one day. And should you be fatigued, tell them with sincerity.
Take care, p.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
