Mr Bond, Just reading over mindsin Sitch here. Your above post confuses me a bit.

I have been improving myself IMHO, for myself, to help me down the road in a R whether it be with W or someone else.

I also am improving and really feeling that these changes will stick and that will be to HER benefit if she chooses to trust me.

We are not to improve ourselves for the WAS benefit though correct? If they are a bi-product that is great.

Am I confusing your comments?

Sorry to jump in mindsin

Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
Served D Complaint 5/2014
W moved out 9/27/2014