I'm often reminded by a good friend that it takes a LONG time to let go of the ow. The MLCer has to get to a place where they feel better about themselves and their life, where they can face and reconcile their past and the choices that they made.
Apparently, this can take a REALLY, REALLY, REALLY long time.
I've busted up several patience shovels in the process
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ A reflection on ow...
For those of you that may not know, ow was a good friend of mine. I was equally blindsided and betrayed by her. If I were to guess, I think she is in crisis as well. I missed so many red flags and signs, had no idea about MLC.
The last time she and I went out to dinner together (about a month before bomb) we were discussing her new side job as a bartender.
She told me how she loved it, loved staying out late and having drinks with her co- workers. That she felt that she was making up for lost time since she had her son so young.
Seriously people, how blind was I? LOL!!
In retrospect, I see now that our friendship was very one- sided. I did not see a lot of the negative things about her personality. I can honestly say - aside from humping my H - my life is better without her and her drama queen antics. I have grieved the friendship that I lost, and moved on.
From what I hear at work, things aren't going so sunny for her. She has isolated herself, caused problems with various coworkers. This has not gone unnoticed by our bosses...
Time will tell how it all plays out. I think lady karma is paying ow a visit...
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
