Thanks, Maybell - it's still so, so easy to fall into the freakouts and difficult to see any progress. If nothing else, though, I think I've been better about thinking through what I should be doing, checking in here, and actually engaging H. differently, even if I'm regularly freaking out on the inside and on here. This forum has been a lifesaver.

Okay, a porch party would be awesome. I actually found myself wondering the other day what a gathering of people in this situation would look like, and it was kind of fantastic. The only thing I'd add is a big bonfire at the end of the night where we can burn wishes and resentments on little pieces of paper. And maybe roast marshmallows.


M - 34
H - 36
Together 10 years
Married 4 years
BD - March, 2014