If she tries to engage you this weekend (and she WILL!!) about "where your head is at," "what you're thinking," "what you're planning to do," tell her:
"Not sure yet. This isn't what I would have wished for, but I do know also that I'll be okay. We both still have a lot of decisions to make." (or similar)
If she presses you specifically on whether or not you've talked to a lawyer, say "Considering what's just happened, do you REALLY think I owe you any explanations right now? Really?" -- and then don't answer her.
Same answer if she pushes you about where you're going/where you were tonite.
If she tries to deny her affair, or -- probably more likely -- "trickle truth" you, say:
"Just stop it -- we both know you're lying to me right now. I know all about you and SG, and I'll say this once and ONLY once: IT NEEDS TO STOP. It's incredibly disrespectful to not only me and our marriage, but to our FAMILY." If she continue to lie to your face, end the conversation.
If she asks you who you've TOLD (and she will!!!), say "I'm not getting into that. I will do what I need to do to get the support and counsel I need from people I trust. I suspect you'll do the same." Maybe add a "I will say this, tho -- I'm not going to lie to cover up your affair."
