S is 14 and even though he does not say much about it, I know he notices it when he make his lil comments here and there. I speak to him openly, even discussed with him 4-5 years ago when I was going thru menopause, so I dont often sugarcoat for him when he ask me direct questions. I just try to explain so he would understand, but in this situation this is his dad issue and I dont want to pretend like everything is ok but dont want son to worry, this is an adult problem and I just want son to know it has nothing to do with him!!!

On a lighter note: When this all started and I took a look at myself I noticed I had "let myself go" and was not happy with it myself not up to my own standards ,,,so I first started off making sure I looked my best for H to notice but quickly it changed to making me feel soo much better and good about myself that is it now truly for me and a habit now that I never want
get out of. Stoped to LOL at myself today,,,need to run son to get allergy shot....before I would have thrown on anything and out the door and I would have not liked how I looked but would not have made the effort I had gotten into a "for what" rut and now I know the "for what" is FOR ME. I was putting on lipgloss, checking my hair, making sure clothes were pressed. I LOVE ME

Heck I might have to one day thank H for his MLC, cause I'm loving myself again, getting back to the woman I want to be!!

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Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
H 51 (ring off 7/2013)
M 2007 T 1996
S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW