KGirl - post-move

[KGirl]

GB/Maybell - yes, there is legal separation. It's exactly the same process as divorce, but you just check a different box on the form, and you're still technically married at the end but all the assets/debts/child cusotdy/etc. are laid out like divorce. It would take a lot of paperwork, $, and time, samea s a divorce (filing, establishing the whole settlement agreement, refinancing of the house to just be in his name, etc.) For that reason there's not much point to doing it unless you need to remain married for insurance reasons, or have a religious objection to actually being divorced.

This "limbo" is not great for finances, I agree. But I don't want to push him into feeling like he needs to file for D to protect himself, either. Some kind of postnup might be the way to go if needed, specifically for this loan.

If I could buy a car upfront I would! I only have $4,000 saved right now, though ('cause six months ago I had no idea I'd need to be getting a car.. and then I had to put a security deposit down on an apartment, get furniture, etc.) and it's not likely to get me something reliable enough that I can count on. If he does dig his heels in I'll have to decide: do I respect what he thinks and not do it? Or just do it anyway knowing it's not helping our M?