She's gone. She's actually BEEN gone. So your journey through hell started 4 months ago.
Truly this is an opportunity.
What was the quote that you gave me the other day? When you go through hell, keep going.
What's the worst that could happen? Well - the worst that could happen is that you guys would get a divorce...that's probably how you feel right now.
But then again - you didn't want the marriage that you've had for the last four months anyway.
What's the best that could happen? You could become a stronger, better version of you. You could become a man that she'd be a fool to leave. You could become someone who will be happy and a great dad no matter what the outcome is.
When you go through hell, keep going.
Sounds like you've got a blister on your foot in your marathon, Dawgy...and that [censored]. But - you can do this. You really need to do this for your boys. The time to start becoming the better version of you is right now.