You're getting GREAT advice here. And I know you feel weak and defeated and miserable, but you're going to get through this. Know that.....
I read on another forum that this is a little bit like being stuck on a ship in a storm. You're seasick and you just kind of have to wait out the storm. There's a part of that analogy that really works for me.
That said - it's time to really DO some things. 1) Detach. (This is a little bit funny - because that's really doing nothing, at least with WAW.) But you've had trouble doing this, so now it's easier if she's gone. Don't text her. Don't email her. Don't call her. She left for OM - which is going to help you detach. THAT'S ACTUALLY GOOD. I know it sounds crazy - but allow it to be the silver lining for you right now.
2) Meet with a family lawyer if you haven't done so already. You don't have to file, but figure out what your rights are and how to protect yourself if she does. She left you, so that should help you.
3) Learn how to do laundry and clean the house! WHAT FUN! Haha - kind of kidding, and kind of not. Time for you and the kids to take on some of those jobs. It's not actually that horrible, and if you divide up the jobs they'll get done in no time. You will be giving your kids some valuable life lessons by teaching them how to do these things. Additionally, you guys might be able to use the time to talk with each other...
Consider this a great opportunity to show an "As if..." You and your boys are now going to live "as if" you don't need your wife around. Guess what? You'll learn that you don't. Guess what else? You're going to find that you're stronger than you know.
4) Find some gratitude. I know it's really hard when life seems so dark. But look around you. Here, it's a beautiful day. Like, stunningly beautiful. I'm grateful for it. I'm grateful for my healthy, smart, kind kids. I'm grateful for my dog! I'm grateful that I have a board where I can find great advice and find that I have more inner strength than I thought I had. You can make your own list.
In the meantime - she's gone to where she thinks the grass is greener. Most of the time, folks discover that it's actually not greener over there. She's on her journey now (she has been for some time). Now you get to start yours for real.
The journey of 1000 miles starts with a single step. You can do this.
