This is no fun, I have her caught but she has not admitted to it. She is lying to the kids about where she is and what she is doing, which breaks my heart
I know it sukks, Sho, but -- other than laying and enforcing some healthy boundaries (ex.: "no texting OM in front of the kids") there's really not much you can do. Everyone draws the line in a different place; I chose to ultimately enforce a "NO DECEIT" boundary only to our ADULT children.
Just don't allow her to lie to your face. When she does, just put your hand up in the "stop" position and do the "Please stop it; we both know you're lying to me right now and it's incredibly disrespectful" thing.
Starsky
Listen to Starsky's comment on putting your hand up. My IC and the MC both told me to do that and it works. When ww told me that her A is not PA anymore I did this. She for really upset and said it's the truth let's go right after he leaves and I will take a lie detector test!
I could tell from the way she was acting that she was not lying to me.
There have since been other things where her reaction pointed that she was. She would just walk away and mumble under her breath!
