Still confused

[kat727]

I understand totally. I have said that I will take responsibility for my part regarding our marriage but I will not take responsibility for his affair. He chose to go on that path.

You can and will get through this. There is another side to this heartache. The only thing is you have to make your way through Hades to get there. Now you get to choose your path. Do you want to continue to hurt and try to get your wife to see you and your point of view or do you chose to work on getting yourself to a better place by focusing on yourself and the life you want? There will be some triggers that will hurt for a while but as long as you keep the focus on you, you can get through those too.

I know you want to save your marriage but if you aren't in a strong solid place yourself, you won't be able to. Think of this like an illness. If you are sick and weak, you couldn't help pull any one up to a safe place. If you are healthy and strong, you will be able to pull others out of danger.

kat