Chapter 2: Letting Go

[Lifes Twists]

When I was last in the hospital before BD my wife only visited once. I had a feeling something was going on, a sixth sense. I gave my parent my debit card and asked them to pull $2000 from the account I shared with my wife. She did not find out about it till until after I was served papers. She got very angry. I told her I pulled it to pay our mortgage and bills. She was so angry she actually said she needed the money to move and never intended to pay those bills.

Since then she has made one bad decision after another about money. Her credit is destroyed. She has been denied as a co signer on a student loan for my daughter.

I don't know what it is with MLCers and money. I think the inability to handle money is just another aspect of this disease. I feel the fall out from their money issues is just another piece of the wreckage they leave in their wake.

Julie, protect your money in order to protect you and your children. Don't cover his expenses. It will only prolong his issues. You need for him to have to face the cold hard reality of his actions. Even then it will take time to see if he will wake up from this.