Still confused

[kat727]

I am sorry. I don't know your whole situation but I couldn't help but stop by.

Now the hard work begins. I want you to take a few deep breaths. Ok, now something you feared has happened. Did the world end? Did you disappear? No, to both of those.

I want you to take another moment and realize that you could not have done anything to stop her. That is why what lays before you now is the grand task of becoming you. In all of this turmoil, I imagine you became someone that you were not so happy with. So let's turn the spotlight on you.

What kind of man do you see yourself as? Have been living up to those standards? What kind of things do you enjoy that maybe your wife didn't, so you stopped doing them? Take some time and focus on you.

Don't reach out to your wife. I have said for years, treat her as you would the mailman, cordial but not overly personal. Don't step in to rescue or save her,she has to work all of this out for herself. While her life is becoming even more if a train wreck, you will be getting back to a person that you can respect and would enjoy knowing.

DB is about saving yourself. Hopefully you will save your marriage along the way.

Blessings, kat