WAW having an A but she denies it #2

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Ox, thanks for your involvement on my thread. Really appreciate it.
How do you balance doing things with her with knowing that the OM is in the picture?

It's really hard to hang onto the roller coaster.

OM lives 6500 miles away. There's a small little war in his country right now.
It was she who asked the IC she was seeing if she would see me as well, this IC is a MC who is pro-marriage and very spiritual.

The MC has been helping me deal quite effectively.

So when the OM is not here she was sleeping in my bed and holding me at night etc, she told MC that she enjoys doing things with me.
All she does with OM is go out to eat , go for walks and listen to him talk and talk and talk, and then he shuts down and they just sit quietly and " reflect"

So apparently I am fulfilling a lot of emotional needs that he is not.

I am trying to be as Plan A as I can be when I am around her. Now I am starting to try and apply the MWD 180 more.

It's not hard to be around someone when you love them.
The MC believes that I am on an upward trajectory and OM is on a downward one.

She believes I am moving up faster then he is moving down which she says is typical because the WW worried that her " old husband" will show up once OM is gone.

The truth is when she went to his country the last time I went no contact with her for all 15 days , she came home asked me to leave the bedroom and said she was moving out for one month to get her head together.
Within 24 hours I had never left the bedroom and she decided she was " never" leaving the house.

At that point I decided I needed to become the husband no woman would want to leave.

Now with the OM here it's way way hard. She insists she's more like his cousin, that she meets him near her office and then they only go to public places. As of now everything does fit that pattern.

She says she moved into our guest room because she does not want to be in bed with any man and does not want to lie or manipulate anymore.

One thing I will tell you, she now kisses me on the mouth every night and says " goodnight, I love you"

I have not said "I love you in over two weeks". I never understood MWD's suggestion to not say it, but believe it or not I heard it right from my WW!

" I am so sick of that word, OM uses it so much it makes me want to PUKE, and Besides I know for sure how much you love me I would not care if I never heard I love you again"

Well that was the last time I ever said it! She knows how much I do, if I didn't I would be gone

So I have decided to not Train with her on the weekend and to only do roommate things..example go food shopping , clean eat dinner at home, until OM leaves.

I apologize for the mini story but I wanted you to see if anything fits what you are dealing with.

25 posted the names of two videos on my thread for me to watch the one on "Fake It to you become it" made a MAJOR impact on me since I watched it.