Sandi2 yes that's what im doing, taking my balls back..lol like my friend says . You are right about the facebook thing, I shouldn't let it get to me. So far sandi2 you have been dead on, throughout my sitch everytime ive been indeferent she pulls in and would always get me to come back, then guess what...she closes up again and im left hurt. I need to protect myself at this point and hold on to my guns...if and when she is ready to work on the R, she will tell me, until then...bombs over Baghdad.
I have no problem with what Sandi has said. I DO have a problem with how you interpret it often.
Oad, you swing back and forth into being an angry punitive "indifferent" 'jerk' at times.
That's the only issue I've frequently had with her (sand's) advice.
It's not the advice, but the frequency with which it is misconstrued that bothers me. This tends to happen especially to men, b/c maybe you see things more 'black and white' than we do.
The choices are NOT "Friend = weak/doormat" VERSUS "strong/confident/cold jerk".
Look at how she words it and make sure you are not 1) misconstruing sand's words or ignoring her caveats' ,
and 2) that you are not misconstruing your wife's words/actions, b/c you tend to view them with way too much suspicion, even when they are positive,
and then
3) you react negatively, or you get mad at her, until a bunch of us tell you that you are out of line.
Back off, give her time to see the changes you SAY you are making
(and which I pray/hope are really being made...)
You know, if WE here are not sure about your changes, how sure can your w be?
what are those changes? Can you name 2 specific behavioral 180s?
And your GAL? How is that going?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
. You are right about the facebook thing,