25 years what I can do is keep taking care of myself and being a better person and father. I know what my fault was in this marriage, and now if I get this job I can move out of my dads to my own place where the girls will have there own room and give them the stability that they need to continue to grow. I have no control over my wife, she is the one that will either see the stability that she so desired (which we had for 10 years)in me and soften her heart or she wont. time will tell, whenever I have the girls I don't call her for favors, I have the girls. But when she has the girls she is always asking me or her mom to help out with the girls. I almost feel like she sees me as a nanny.
Wow, Negativity again, and so soon?
I'd be glad she involves you (see? I don't see it your way at all). Sure, she asks her mom for help and she asks YOU for help which btw, is a great sign.
yes it is. It means she's not too proud to ask for help AND it means she's not afraid to ask YOU for help and it may mean she notices that being without you around
is harder.....so yeah, these are mostly all positive.
You want to fight about them? Tell her she can't call you anymore.
She probably won't. So, is that really what you want? Think it all out.
In fact, When you complain, even just to yourself, ask yourself what things would be like if the implications of your complaints came true.
Meaning, when you think to yourself "Hey she thinks I'm a nanny" -
go ahead and finish the thought----- "so I won't allow that. I'll NEVER help her with the kids again". I mean, that is the implication of your complaint, right?
So now what?
She probably won't ever call you for help again, right? Okay, then what?
She'd resent you, or at least not think much good about it. Okay then what?
The girls MIGHT suffer, or they might not. Okay then what?
Your wife might find someone else to ask for help and okay, then what?
So think out what you are whining about when you get negative - so you can slap some sense into your head, and be GLAD she's calling YOU.
Make sense?
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