You know what I'm realizing? I have a butt load of these sort of thoughts in my head that keep me from detaching and backing away from H. Such as:
'I know he is going to regret it if he pursues D. I have to make sure he knows he is making a mistake. Essentially --- I have to SAVE him.'
'If I let him go too far or too long, he won't come back'
'I have to keep reminding him of me/us'
'I have to keep reminding him of our family'
I'm sure there's more...I'll post as I think of them. All so counterproductive!
I am in the same boat. I have the same thoughts in my head. Especially letting him go too far or he won't come back. Man, you nailed that one. It is SO HARD to detach. Thanks for bringing this to my attention. Gotta let go of the fear. Might be easier now that I can recognize that's what it is. Wow.
