Having recently arrived on this board and got the courage to post, i also received Cadet's post you see above. Most of us do but let me tell you FOLLOW THAT ADVICE!!! I sat around thinking my situation was more unique than the others so the typical DB'n wouldn't work and I projected and mind read and over thought and did it all wrong. FOLLOW THE ADVICE ABOVE and GAL! Back off your H. Wake up tomorrow, take a shower, do your hair and make up, look nice - do something for YOU. Read DB/DR and take notes. LOTS of notes. Especially read about LRT and put it into practice. Smile. Make yourself happy. Go out with friends. Thank your H for his notes, etc. It'll throw him for a loop for sure and mystery is GOOD. If he asks why the change of heart just tell him you're thinking things through. Breathe. We're here for you but first... GAL!
